It's your own To-Do List.

What is it that we really do all day?  What makes us "productive?"  I ask myself this question all the time, so much in fact, that it detracts from my own productivity.  Lately, I have been feeling like I haven't done anything with my my life, that i have nothing to show, no fancy degree, no sparkly, pre-kid career, and i have only lived in one city, my whole life (yes, it's true).  I am 43, mid-life by most standards, however, in my estimation, i will reach mid-life in 7 years, and, i have only lived in Seattle. 

So, what makes our lives meaningful, productive, and worthy in others eyes?  Is it the big accomplishments that matter?  Or, is it the the homemade meal, the clean, folded clothes, the talks you have with your kids, and, no, i don't mean, the dreamy, beautiful little talks about how much you love them, and how perfect their little flowery-smelling hair is (blah, blah, blah), but, the "talks", the difficult talks, the ones where you think to your self, "are they going to still love me after all of this tough-love i am dishing?" Is it the slow, painfully, slow, chipping away at your "to-do" list because even though your kids are gone all day, there is still so much to do to keep your household running, and not running beautifully, just "running" (I mean, the dish washer filled, emptied, the dog fed and walked, the piles of crap sorted or at the very least, just moved to the right part of the house, toilet paper in the bathroom, towels washed - once a week? - and at least your own bed made…).  Is productivity something that we should EVER measure in OTHER's eyes?  

People are always asking me, how many bags i sell every year and shouldn't i sell more?, what am i doing to promote my bags, do i sell them at Nordstrom, when am i adding a new product or color?, why don't i add this, do that, have i ever thought about getting them on Oprah's favorite things?, and when am going to start writing a blog?!  Well, guess what? I am starting the blog, write now, typing, drinking coffee, the Today Show on in the background, my dog waiting for his walk, the dryer tumbling my kid's clothes (my 14 year old son still complained that his sweatshirt that he put in the wash yesterday is still not clean?!), the dish-washer still waiting to be unloaded, a new pile of breakfast dishes waiting by the sink, my bed UN-made, and yes, i am still in my sleeping clothes (this sounds better than pajamas doesn't it?), and it's 9:45am.  What ever do i do with my day?!  

Remind yourself, this is YOUR life, your day, and your moment, little moments that add up to a life, a long life.  Try to fit in something that makes YOU happy and productive today.  if it's tennis, great!  If it's organizing your sock drawer or every sock drawer in your house, wow! If it's cooking a good, healthy meal for your family, gold star!  if it's simply giving your kid(s) a hug and telling them you love them at the end of today, you've been productive.  Just be kind, keep a few things clean, eat good food, and chip away at your OWN list.

Posted on February 23, 2015 .